Can You Hear Me Now?

Friday, March 11, 2011

Can You? Have you ever been in a situation where you, in your mind, were following a conversation only to be jolted by someone screaming, “Are you even listening?”

There is a study out there that suggests we are losing the art of real conversation. We have, in this modern age, taken the old phone company adage and changed it to read, “Let your fingers do the talking.” We converse via social media. However, it is not the lost art of conversation that bothers me but rather the dulling of our senses.

Is it really okay to put your worst nightmare on Facebook/Twitter and except merely a written, “I’m sorry” from hundreds of your so-called closet friends and family?

Has it become the norm to choose watching the caged bird sing on YouTube rather than actually experiencing that bird sing?

Has the general participation in life been reduced to, “only if my gadget is not buzzing, blaring or playing music?” Should it happen to be, “Well, excuse me from life.”

I know this sounds like a rant on technology but rather quite the opposite, I love technology. I do understand the need, use and importance of technology but I equally enjoy life. Life is just that, an all-encompassing journey and in my mind shall never be confined within an electronic box.

I feel remorse when a friend or family member has forgotten that no crisis is too large to ask for a real shoulder. That yes, I do actually listen to oral conversation and that I honestly care. I will never hold my PC while it cries over the death of its hard drive; that is just a fact.

I feel a deep loss when anyone tells me they would rather watch a video rather than experience the actual event. Watching a video of a walk in the park will never replace feeling the sun on your skin, the leaves blow across your feet or the rain soaking you to the bone.

These are the experiences we drawn from while watching, listening or feeling any situation. This is life. It is not always easy or pretty, it comes not instantaneously, and it will not be put on hold. It must be devoured with all our senses and cherished. 

So excuse me if I did not catch your Youtube video or I missed something on Facebook/Twitter, Oh and my cell phone is so old it will not text message.

I am from the old school, the one who taught, “All good things in moderation.” I graduated from the wild women school of living; I want to climb that mountain myself. I want you to cry on my shoulder and wipe away your tears and it drives me crazy that so many of you my blogging friends need a good night out with a wild woman and I cannot get there.

Now that is technology I could use. When are they going to invent that “Beam me up” gadget, my friends need me!

Please for the weekend hit the power off button, walk away from that unfinished WIP and go devour some life.

In closing I give you “Wild Women Don’t Get The Blues.”

Have a great weekend and Peace…


Karen Walker said, 

Jules, what a delightful idea - all the blogging wild women who've gotten to know each other can get together for a wild women fest.

March 11, 2011 at 9:12 AM  
li said, 

Yay! I have a prepaid phone that does nothing but...operate as a phone! And I thought I was the only one. Technology should be an enhancement to life, not a substitute. Bravo, Jules, for encouraging everyone to pry their fingers from their gadgets and use them to actual touch the world.

March 11, 2011 at 10:04 AM  
Summer Ross said, 

Sounds like a fantastic idea- but all my homework is on this machine with a due date- LOL Perhaps I will be able to after midterms. Have a terrific day!

March 11, 2011 at 10:07 AM  
welcome to my world of poetry said, 

Sounds a good idea Jules.

Are you still on facebook?
I had to deactavate mine before going away, I have it up and running again but can't find you to ask to be your friend.

Have a good week-end.

March 11, 2011 at 10:16 AM  
Bossy Betty said, 

I teach college students. I feel this way every day.

March 11, 2011 at 10:27 AM  
Clarissa Draper said, 

I use technology to help my life but I wouldn't want to stop living life outside the box. Great post.

March 11, 2011 at 10:39 AM  
The Golden Eagle said, 

Great idea!

I can't text message on my phone, either. And I pretty much prefer it that way--I never liked the idea of having to take out a phone out and read messages that might or might not be significant. :P

Have a wonderful weekend!

March 11, 2011 at 10:53 AM  
Alex J. Cavanaugh said, 

You are so right about moderation and enjoying real life!!

March 11, 2011 at 10:53 AM  
Melissa Bradley said, 

Great post! I love tech, but I'm happy being just a bit behind everyone. I do not have text capability on my phone, so my friends have to actually talk to me. But, I do love the way I can reach out to anyone anywhere via social media, friendships that would not be possible without tech.

March 11, 2011 at 10:56 AM  
Karen Lange said, 

I love that! "...go devour some life." I'm with you; I like technology, but only to a point.
Happy non-technological weekend,

March 11, 2011 at 11:13 AM  
Arlee Bird said, 

You said it! I am always so amazed, and saddened, when I go somewhere like the mall and see all of these people walking around talking on the phone. It's so weird. Why go anywhere if you're just going to walk around talking on the phone.
Or I've been around people who are staring and pecking away at their little hand-held devices or laptops while we should be visiting one another. Sometimes they don't even notice when someone says something to them. To me it's rude and just plain weird.

Tossing It Out

March 11, 2011 at 12:07 PM  
Blasphemous Aesthete said, 

I still miss writing letters in ink rather than typing emails, although I can now type faster than I write with ink.
Technology is sure changing how things work, but still I prefer a paperback to e-paper.
There are some things that should be done the old school way just for the fun of doing it the old school way.

Blasphemous Aesthete

March 11, 2011 at 12:14 PM  
~Sia McKye~ said, 

Jules, nice commentary.

I love technology and I use it. However, it doesn't take the place of real interactions with people, places, or things.

I have some wonderful cyber friends and some I've met up with and done fun things with or talked on the phone with--real conversation, yay. I love a good conversation.

As for texting...not my favorite thing. I use it only for short things--don't forget to bring home your science book tonight, son. Honey, I know you're in a meeting, could you pick up some bread on the way home? Hey sis, I'll be there in about 30 minutes...that sort of thing.

Live your life don't merely exist. Experience it, feel it, enjoy it.

March 11, 2011 at 12:26 PM  
iZombie said, 

nice, i am not that important where i do not have to be on the phone all the time... reality is i just would be talking to the voices in my head and i do not need a phone for that...

it's when they answer... then there will be trouble...


March 11, 2011 at 12:52 PM  
Roland D. Yeomans said, 

What you said about conversation is so true. But it was like that before high tech gadgets.

Sadly, then as now, people only waited for you to pause to catch your breath to leap into the void with what they had been wanting to talk about : themselves!

Like the starlet of the 40's said to the ear-weary movie producer : "Enough about me. What do you think about me?" LOL. Roland

March 11, 2011 at 1:08 PM  
Carolyn Abiad said, 

I love heading up to the mountains for a break - no cell coverage there!

March 11, 2011 at 1:10 PM  

I think the issue is insecurity for some people. I was at an employment agency today and found that half the people couldn't just sit there and wait. They had to play on their cell phones and I don't think it's from boredom. People feel awkward unless they're doing something, especially if they're alone. That's just my theory! I could be way off base...

March 11, 2011 at 3:06 PM  
Holly said, 

10 stars, my friend... My real interactions frequently depend on my mood... I've been spending a LOT of time away from the WEB for a while, now. Needed to prioritize a bit... Hope you don't mind me linking this into my AWARENESS LINKY... ((HUGS))

March 11, 2011 at 3:31 PM  
Tammy said, 

I loved the line, "It must be devoured with all our senses and cherished." True, every word.

March 11, 2011 at 4:34 PM  
floweringmama said, 

Hey, long time no talk! I'm finally on spring break and have a moment to catch my breath.

Odd that you posted this. It is similar to a service learning project I'm doing for one of my classes about nature deficit disorder.

Have a great weekend.

March 11, 2011 at 4:40 PM  
Olivia J. Herrell said, 

Oh goodie, Francine Reed! Still listening, thanks so much for the Friday afternoon blues.

Guess what? I've got wireless again. Yeehaa!

Here you are unplugging and I'm replugging and double plugging. Got wireless. Check. In the meantime, got new iPhone. Check. Ha. Technology out the yingyang.

But lordy I've missed my laptop!

~ that rebel, Olivia

March 11, 2011 at 4:46 PM  
N. R. Williams said, 

I had a friend at work once say to me, "You always notice the birds." She was right, but it took her saying that for me to realize that others didn't.
N. R. Williams, The Treasures of Carmelidrium, Special .99 through April 30

March 11, 2011 at 5:07 PM  
The Words Crafter said, 

MMmmmm, I want to build a back deck so I can sit and watch all the birds and squirrels and bunnies in my back yard.....

Have a great unplugged weekend!

March 11, 2011 at 6:03 PM  
Mary Vaughn said, 

This is why each Sunday everything gets turned off. When I'm with family it's the same. For years it was okay to go out, have a good time and check your messages in the morning, why not now?

March 11, 2011 at 7:12 PM  
Amy said, 

I couldn't agree more about getting out and living life. And such a timely post given all that happened in Japan. I will definitely get out and enjoy my weekend. Hope you do too! :)

March 11, 2011 at 7:51 PM  
L'Aussie said, 

Hey Jules, this has echos of my 'Slappin' the apps' post last Sunday. I love to get out and live life - I just got back from the St Pat's parade in Brisbane (rather than watching it on TV), but I'll get great pleasure in posting a picture essay on my blog next week so I can share it with so many lovely people...ain't techo grand?


Roland Yeomans Blog Tour here Saturday and Sunday. Follow The Bear with Two Shadows!

March 11, 2011 at 10:16 PM  
Ella said, 

You remind me of SARK. Have you seen her books,
I'm waiting, get over here. Let's head to the nature trail near the swamp! ;-D

March 12, 2011 at 1:49 PM  
Jayne said, 

Jules - I hear you, I hear you! And well said, indeed. I think I'll power down now, and chill for the evening with my wee ones. It feels good to jump off the grid now and then.
Enjoy the weekend!

March 12, 2011 at 6:11 PM  
Talli Roland said, 

Love it!

And yes, I am always off somewhere in my head and I have to mentally give myself a shake!

March 13, 2011 at 1:57 PM  
Paula said, 

Jules, I am so late... to busy devouring life! Yes, modern times arent always the best, actually I doubt it more by the day. How are you? Love from my heart to yours

March 13, 2011 at 3:21 PM  
RosieC said, 

Jules, it is very true. I spend tons of my life on the computer and don't walk away much. Notice me writing this on Sunday :( I did, though, take Friday and Saturday as mostly computer-free days, so maybe that counts.

If you're ever farther north, I would love a wild woman to take me out. A good dash of whiskey and Coyote Ugly might do me some good :) Ha!

Hope you had a nice weekend.

PS--On Thursday, there's a St. Patty's blogfest that I'm participating in, and I'm dedicating my post to you for your inspiration. Hope you can stop by :)

March 13, 2011 at 5:27 PM  
Amie Kaufman said, 

It's a long weekend here. I'm heading out this afternoon to spend the whole afternoon in the sunshine with friends--I'm baffled by people who don't!

March 13, 2011 at 9:27 PM  
Jilda said, 

great post, I will be a wild woman as long as I live! we should all step away from the the techno every once in awhile!

March 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM  
Velvet Over Steel said, 

Love it, Jules! & if they ever creat technology where I can beem up YOU, I sure will! I want that wild night out with the girls (you)! :-)

If you haven't noticed, I have been walking away from the computer the past few weekends and actually going OUTSIDE... can you believe it! I'm trying to find my 'balance' between my love for my laptop and great friends like you... along with having those real life experiences that I've missed this longgggggg hard winter. lol Another Great post, Jules!!! Hope you had a good weekend too!!
Coreen xoxoxo

March 13, 2011 at 11:10 PM  
Elle Strauss said, 

I totally subscribe to the All Things in Moderation view of life. Nothing can beat the real thing either---thanks for reminder us to go out and do stuff ourselves!

March 13, 2011 at 11:40 PM  
Rachael Harrie said, 

Hey Jules, what a great wake up call! It's something I try to remember, but often escapes from me - I'll do my best now to unplug and switch off wherever possible.



March 14, 2011 at 5:16 AM  
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