To Answer Questions

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Almost a month ago I was on track and handling life as it came, then in the blink of an eye that changed. What changed, where have I been, why have I been avoiding you, and most importantly who hid the charger chord to my laptop?

Life throws us many curve balls; some we see coming and we do not swing at. Some we don’t see coming and find ourselves looking back as the ball passes to see nothing but the catcher smiling. That would be me, looking back at one ugly catcher. To answer your questions though…

A month ago my grandmother fell, nothing serious at the time, we thought. But the pain got worse, her physical condition deteriorated and her mental well-being went somewhere back to 1941, she fell again.

She did not have the strength to get out of the floor but could answer the phone. Long story short we found not only has she fallen 3 times but has not been eating, not good for a diabetic.

This facilities idea of care is not to notify us when she has fallen, not notify us she was not eating even though we had requested it be done and to blame everything on dementia. Which makes her question, “Does anyone even care about me?”

Needless to say my time has been spent with family issues regarding my grandmother. There is no joy in Mudville right now. We have found another facility closer to my parents and will be moving her this week. To move the elderly is chancy at best but we have no choice.

This my friends is where I have been, this is what I have been dealing with and this is why my sense of humor has been M.I.A.

You however, have lifted my heart, dried my tears and given me strength to carry on. All of your wonderful check-ins and well wishes have touched my heart, thank you.

You will have to continue to deal with my in and out-ness until things settle down but know this…

Regardless of why you are here in blog world; you rock, you matter and you will be forever in my heart.

Now, do you think it would be okay to have a keg party in an assisted living community to trash the place before we vacate?



Paula said, 

Thinking of you. Love and hugs

December 6, 2011 at 8:51 AM  
Possum said, 

The words appropriate and obligatory spring to mind as perfect answers to the keg party issue!!
Strength to you all xx

December 6, 2011 at 9:11 AM  
GigglesandGuns said, 

KEG PARTY! Seriously, you had to ask?


December 6, 2011 at 9:20 AM  
DL Hammons said, 

Hey, we'll take what we can get...and so should you! And a KEGGER is appropriate anytime!! :)

December 6, 2011 at 9:46 AM  
Manzanita said, 

HEY KEGGER ON!!! Jules, I understand. Oh, how I understand. I'm at the side with your grandmother and my kids worry and fuss over me. But we read the words on the wall and we are not unhappy. Much love to you and your family.

December 6, 2011 at 9:47 AM  
Karen Walker said, 

Julie, I am so so sorry. I've been offline for awhile and had no idea. Hope the new facility takes better care of your grandmother's caregivers. And I hope she recovers quickly. Take care, dear one.

December 6, 2011 at 10:17 AM  
Julie said, 

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother, Jules. I have missed you here, but assumed your absence was just due to this busy time of year. I'm sorry for what you've been dealing with, I know this type of situation is so difficult. Hugs to you, your grandmother, and the rest of the family.

And, I think the Kegger idea is a must!

December 6, 2011 at 10:47 AM  
Green Monkey said, 

ABSOLUTELY!!! keg party it is!!!! nursing homes SUCK - its almost a year ago that my dad was in one. He's home now, with 24 hour care. And I thank his caregiver every day. and I pray he never has to go back to a nursing home. You... Jules.... you might notice when you get to the other side of that bright light that your wings are bigger then the rest. That your halo is brighter, that wisp in your hair is boucier, and you feel lighter because you brought honor to your grandmother. THIS is why we love you. xoxoMOnkeyME

December 6, 2011 at 11:58 AM  
Alex J. Cavanaugh said, 

Jules, that's terrible! You pay and trust the place to take care of your grandmother - and they fail. I hope the new place is much better.
Prayers for you, my friend!

December 6, 2011 at 1:09 PM  
Nezzy said, 

Oh darlin' my heart and prayers are with ya. I for one know from experience that elder care can be all life consuming!

I'm dealin' with both a Mother and a MIL. It all started with my FIL who passed several years ago, my dad last year.

I said to Hubs the other night, "Is this our lives 'till we are in the same situation." He chuckled and said, "I'm afraid so."

Take care and know I'm prayin' for ya'll!!! :o)

December 6, 2011 at 2:22 PM  
Li said, 

YES to the keg party. Hope all goes as well as possible with the move. ((((Hugs))))) and thoughts :-)))

December 6, 2011 at 5:46 PM  
The Golden Eagle said, 

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother--I hope the new facility is better than the last.

You'll be in my thoughts!

December 6, 2011 at 6:56 PM  
Karen Lange said, 

So sorry about this, Jules. Hang in there, okay? Will be thinking of you.

December 6, 2011 at 7:18 PM  
Flying high in the sky.... said, 

i will pray for you....may God bless you and your family... please take good care of yourself too.. we will wait.. do not bother to explain to us.... take care... God Bless.....

December 7, 2011 at 1:20 AM  
Velvet Over Steel said, 

I'm praying for your grandmother, and your whole family too!! How horrible that the care facility didn't take better care of your grandmother and letting the caring family that she has know what was truly going on.

Your grandmother however is Very lucky to have all of you as her loving family. She is as blessed as you all.

Oh and YES trash the 'old' place before you leave; write about them; complain to anyone who will listen... because it can only help raise awareness and hopefully raise the care at that facility; if only to cover their butts!! It will still help other sweet souls like your grandmother; those who don't have families to fight for them.

Blessings and Big HUG, Jules!!! I would so want you as my grand-daughter or daughter. You Rock!!!

December 7, 2011 at 9:30 AM  
Midlife Jobhunter said, 

Sounds like a perfect idea to me.

Sorry for you troubles. Hope things calm down for you very soon.

December 7, 2011 at 11:58 PM  
February Grace said, 

I'm so sorry for all that's going on, Jules, and for your grandmother's pain, and yours.

Sending lots of thoughts and love your way.


December 8, 2011 at 10:06 AM  
Katie Gates said, 

Sorry to hear about your grandmother and the logistical issues you have been dealing with. I agree about the curve balls. I also think the Keg Party is a mighty-fine idea. Go for it, and hang in there!

December 9, 2011 at 10:45 PM  
floweringmama said, 

I'm sorry for what you're going through right now. It doesn't get easier, it only gets harder, but for each moment we have it creates more memories. I'm sending you good thoughts - both for you and your grandmother. I hope the new facility is everything that the old one was not.

December 10, 2011 at 3:17 PM  
Talli Roland said, 

Jules, I'm very sorry. Sending lots of hugs your way. xx

December 11, 2011 at 4:31 AM  

It was worth stopping by if only for the image of bong smoking and heavy drinking Granny. Go granny, go!

December 12, 2011 at 10:42 AM  
Tracy said, 

Yeah, I'm all for trashing the place before you turn out the light for the last time...isn't that what they did to your Grandmother? You are in my thoughts and prayers as is Granny!

December 12, 2011 at 9:10 PM  
Vicki Rocho said, 

That is unbelievable - not to call the family when they specifically asked to be notified.

Hope the new facility works out much better!

December 12, 2011 at 10:34 PM  
MTeacress said, 
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December 13, 2011 at 10:39 AM  
MTeacress said, 

I'd be tempted to come if you served some rootbeer at that party! Those guys need a wake up call. I'm glad you're able to move her, and I hope the move lifts her spirits.

December 13, 2011 at 10:40 AM  
Samantha VĂ©rant said, 

The way my life has been going, I'm up for a kegger. Let's get Grandma, get slap silly drunk, and party our worries away! Hugs to you and your family this holiday season. Big bear hugs!

December 14, 2011 at 5:15 AM  
Theresa Milstein said, 

I'm so sorry about your grandmother. I've watched a grandmother and my husband's great-uncle languish in facilities. None of us want to watch people we care about not be treated properly or think of ourselves in the same situation someday.

I hope things have improved since you wrote this post.

Thinking of you.

December 14, 2011 at 6:42 AM  
Arlee Bird said, 

I'd been seeing that veteran post for so long that I guess a week slipped by before I saw this one. Well, it helped that you left comments and started having a blog presence again. Good to see you back and hope everything is starting to rebound for the better during the Christmas season.

A Faraway View

December 14, 2011 at 10:35 PM  
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